Self pity exists as a real emotion. All real emotions have both a positive and a negative side. The positive side of pity lies with its powers of anesthesia. Self pity numbs the pain. It puts you to sleep. It wraps you in a cocoon of mush – and keeps … Continue reading
. . . is jealous of the victim’s friends and family. . . . keeps track of the time the victim is away from them. . . . follows the victim to find out where they are going or who they are with. . . . calls the victim frequently … Continue reading
Settle all critical business before you begin no-contact. (if you have children – decide via YOUR LAWYERS how contact between the parent & child will take place and visitation. Do NOT engage in any conversations with the other parent aside from BUSINESS ONLY!!) !!!This means business only… no personal exchanges!!! … Continue reading
Phase I: The Tension Building Stage The woman tries to calm the man by becoming nurturing, compliant, either anticipating his every whim or staying out of his way. She accepts his abusiveness as legitimately directed towards her. She believes she can prevent his anger from escalating. She becomes his accomplice … Continue reading
Overcoming Fear by Richard Skerritt [Fear is a huge issue for people in abusive situations, because for many of us, there is a compelling need for us to take action to change our situation to protect ourselves. Fear can be paralyzing, especially when we are stepping into the unknown and … Continue reading
Healing, Forgiving and Overcoming Abuse By Nancy Richards The soul cannot forgive until it is restored to wholeness and health. In the absence of love—how can one forgive? With an abundance of love, starting with one’s self, forgiveness becomes a viable opportunity. At some point in every abuse survivor’s healing … Continue reading
The Boomerang Relationship: Passivity, Irresponsibility and Resulting Partner Anger Lynne Namka, Ed. D © 1998 One of the hardest patterns of behavior for all of us to deal with is passive aggressive behavior. Passive aggressive behavior happens when the person avoids responsibility and attempts to control others to keep them … Continue reading
How to Love Yourself by Louise Hay STOP ALL CRITICISM. Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF. Stop terrorizing yourself … Continue reading
5 life-changing keys to overcoming your fear Published February 22nd, 2007 in Wealth, Relaxation, Personal Development and People Skills. What is stopping you from getting what you want in life? Your friends? Your family? A sense that failure – or success – might change your life and that feeling uncomfortable? … Continue reading
12 Steps for Overcoming Abuse Holly T. Hammershoy, M.Ed., Resident Therapist for The Center of Hope For Women, Newburyport 1) We admitted that we have worth and power. 2) We came to believe that we were not responsible for our abuse. 3) We made the decision to make a safe … Continue reading
