Of all the tasks that we face in emerging from an abusive relationship, healing the damage from the abuse is the most difficult and the task that inevitably takes the longest. Our finances can be rebuilt; our emotions will rebound; bruises will heal; new friends can be made; new partners … Continue reading
“Honey, I Love You BUT…” is NOT a declaration of love. Joy Stevens Your partner is constantly belittling you and abusing you while hiding behind a guise of love. The “I love you but…” person is a clever abuser. You are being manipulated in a power play. You are probably … Continue reading
Give yourself the time you need to come to terms with the end of your marriage. There is no way to predict how long the process will take. Everyone copes differently. The grieving process is not a straight line. You won’t find that each day is better than the one … Continue reading
The following is a list of behaviors that may indicate a potential batterer. It is not the purpose of the listing to imply that every person with some of these attributes is a batterer or potential batterer. Jealousy At the start of the relationship, an abuser will equate jealously with … Continue reading
Safety First: Thoughts on leaving your abuser by: Blain Nelson Leaving an abusive partner is a very difficult thing to do. It frequently feels like you are failing, or destroying your family, or not trying to work things out, or not giving your partner a “second chance.” It hurts, and … Continue reading
1. Is your partner threatening or violent towards you or the children? 2. Do you find yourself making excuses or minimizing your partner’s behavior? 3. Do you feel completely controlled by your partner? 4. Do you feel helpless, trapped, alone, and isolated? 5. Do you blame yourself for the violence? … Continue reading
Dealing with Abandonment Issues by Sue Anderson When a relationship ends, both partners experience turmoil and loss, but the one who is left feeling abandoned bears the brunt of the pain. Why does it hurt so much when someone leaves us? Loving and wanting someone who does not love us … Continue reading
Emotional Abusers by Natalie P. Most people have had it happen: at some point in our lives we find ourselves manipulated or “guilted” into doing something we didn’t want to do. We end up angry at ourselves for caving in, and resenting the other person for pressuring us. However there … Continue reading
Top 7 Reasons People Stay in Abusive Relationships By: Cathy Meyer If you have known someone in an abusive relationship, I’m sure you’ve wondered why they stay. What motivates a person to stay in a relationship that causes them emotional and physical pain? It’s puzzling and hard to imagine but … Continue reading
Abuse comes in many forms and types. It’s hard to pinpoint why an abuser chooses a certain type of person. Unfortunately, that’s usually one of the first things the victim tries to figure out…”why me?” There is no real answer, and the question implies that the victim, somehow, feels at … Continue reading
